“Being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional.” The quote from the Pulitzer Prize-winning writer Eric Bates best describes human life and its challenges. As a person treads on the different phases of their life, there are bound to be challenges and things that they cannot control. So, what should they do? Ponder over things that they cannot control or do something about the things they can? In the book titled 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (1989), Stephen Covey shared the idea that human actions can be divided into three distinct categories or circles – the circle of concern, influence, and control. Let’s dig into these concepts and find which one to adapt for a better life.
Circle of Concern
Imagine being worried about the effect of the pandemic. Or imagine being concerned with the economy of the country or the political and social changes going around. What do these things have in common?
These are larger-than-life scenarios that a person has no control over. In the general sense of things, a man is a very small part of the society he resides in. It’s often impossible and improbable to dictate or control every affair in the society or the country or even the global happenings. Yet these are things that might concern a person.
And this is precisely what the circle of concern deals with. A person cannot control or influence when it will rain or when it will be sunny. But it is something he or she is worried about and takes appropriate measures like taking an umbrella out. The circle of concern outlines these very things that are beyond the control of man but concerns them regardless.
Circle of Influence
While the circle of concern deals with things that are beyond a man, the circle of influence is a bit more intricate. It is also the macro aspect of the circle of control which will be discussed in the latter part of the article.
The circle of influence is something that a person has minimal control over. These are not the things that s/he is just concerned about. Instead, the individual can do something to make a positive impact.
Imagine a person is concerned about climate change and its impact. What can he or she do about it? It is not exactly out of their influence as humans are the prime reasons behind climate change. As a concerned citizen, he or she can take individual measures to reduce the impact of climate change and influence others. The direct and indirect action in this regard makes up the circle of influence. This may be a very small step in the grand scheme of things, but it is something that a person can do to play his/her part.
The circle of influence essentially lets a person do something about things that concerns you. Rather than simply complaining and whining, the influence lets someone make the most out of their situational capacity.
Circle of Control
The circle of control is probably the smallest of the three. Beyond the scopes of the circle of concern and influence, the circle of control is something that is completely under the control and choice of an individual. While a person cannot do much about the world economy or stuff like climate change, the circle of control treads on aspects that are solely dependent on personal choice.
Imagine a person going to the doctor. The doctor asks the person to exercise so that he or she can avoid future health complications. Now whether the person will exercise or not completely depends on himself or herself.
The circle of control is a more intricate aspect of the circle of influence. Influence can be both direct and indirect. But the circle of control is limited to the individual choices and how it impacts them.
While all three of concern, influence, and control are part of life, not all of them have a positive impact on the life and career of a person.
Before assessing the impact of each of these circles, a person needs to figure out which circle they are giving priority to. What is the current state of their life? Where do they want to see themselves in 5 years? How can taking control of the thoughts effectively guide them toward their end goal? The answer to all of these will justify the best strategic integration in a person’s life.
The circle of concern will eventually drag a person to be pessimistic and anxious. The constant concern over things that are not in their control will eventually do them no good other than inducing stress and anxiety. It also induces the habit of whining, complaining, and blaming others.
Needless to say, the circle of concern should be limited as much as possible. There is a healthy degree of being concerned about things. However, the obsessive nature will only do self-harm and take away attention from the actual burning issues.
In contrast, the circle of influence and its sub circle, control, provides a better outlook on life and its priorities in general. These are the matters and issues that a person has a varying degree of control in or influence over. So naturally, the decision taken will have a direct or indirect impact on the matter. These two circles make way for accountability as well as responsibility within a person. It also helps to justify the thought process of a person with the end result in any matter.
Source: United News of Bangladesh